Late Bloomer? We’re Counting on YOU!
It wasn’t until I was in my mid-40’s that I knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. Marrying my high school sweetheart very young, and bearing 2 children 10 years apart, I was never interested in a career beyond the odd job to help out. Everything changed when my marriage ended abruptly and I had to fend for myself.
That path led me to career coaching and my mission to empower women to change the world.
You could say I was a late bloomer.
The thing is, being a late bloomer is exactly the way a female’s life path normally plays out.
According to Louann Brizendine, MD, author of The Female Brain, hormones control our behavior far more than we realize. That goes for both men and women.
Men start out with high levels of testosterone and the resulting competitive hierarchical mindset while women start out with high levels of estrogen resulting in a desire to connect and nest.
As humans mature, the levels reverse. Men tend to nest more and desire higher levels of connection as they age, while women, especially at menopause when estrogen drops and testosterone rises, are now ready to make their mark in the world. Their drive skyrockets!
Culturally, we’ve built a world around the mindset of a 19-year old male. The earth’s resources are pillaged for profit while women are valued for their reproduction potential and measured by their attractiveness. Our economy is built on cutthroat competition and conflict is resolved by violence. A “real man” dukes it out! The worldwide political environment is more about swagger than diplomacy.
The mindsets of our early 20’s are hard to change, even as we age, even as the consequences of the past 5,000 years take its toll. We have to find a way to get over this if we are to survive as a species.
Here’s the deal: late bloomer women are humanity’s superpower.
They have life wisdom and energy coupled with a heart’s desire to make a difference. They have juggled multiple demands all their lives and have developed an extraordinary ability to connect the dots in new and exciting ways. They bring curiosity, energy, creativity and new perspective to everything.
In the workplace, introducing women’s values to traditional hierarchical leadership models is the only smart way to lead. Things like actually listening to your employees, teamwork and collaboration are finally considered normal.
The Dalai Lama said, “Western women will change the world.”
Western women have the cumulated benefit of good sanitation, higher standards of nutrition and medicine, and, in general, higher levels of education than a large portion of the earth’s population.
No one is more perfectly positioned to impact the world order and make changes that benefit all.
If you are a late bloomer, you’re exactly where you need to be. If you are beating yourself up because you’re in your midlife feeling hopeless, that you don’t know what your true mission or calling is – please don’t despair. It’s forming in your consciousness even as you read this post.
If you’re struggling to find meaning from the crazy path you’ve followed to get where are now, please know the path you’re on is exactly the one that will lead you to your best work.
You will bloom!! And the world will benefit.
I would love to hear about powerful late-blooming women in your life and feature them in this blog. Please comment below or contact me directly and tell me their stories! I want to interview them!
The world needs you, late bloomers. It’s time to ROCK!