Who else is a late bloomer?
It wasn’t until I was in my late-40’s that I knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. I realize now that I was a late bloomer.
Marrying my high school sweetheart very young, and bearing 2 children 10 years apart, I was never interested in a career beyond the odd job to help out. Everything changed when my 24-year marriage ended abruptly and I had to fend for myself.
That path led me to career coaching and my mission to empower women to change the world. The first time I quit the day job to coach full-time, I was 49.
Late Bloomer is normal
The thing is, being a late bloomer is exactly the way a female’s life path is supposed to play out.
According to Luann Brizendine, MD, author of The Female Brain, hormones control our behavior far more than we realize. That goes for both men and women.
Men start out with high levels of testosterone and the resulting competitive hierarchical mindset while women start out with high levels of estrogen resulting in a desire to connect and nest.
As human age, the levels reverse. As testosterone levels fall, men tend to nest more and desire higher levels of connection, while women, especially at menopause when estrogen drops and testosterone rises, face outwardly and are ready to make their mark in the world.
There is tremendous energy in a 50-year old woman who has found both her calling and her voice. Here’s the deal: late-blooming women have always been humanity’s secret superpower.
Late bloomers will change the world
Archaeology now asserts that an important factor in the success of humanity as a species was the ability of young mothers to be productive in the village as the grandmothers cared for and taught the children.
That nurturing instinct remains.
Late bloomers have life wisdom and energy coupled with a heart’s desire to make a difference. They have juggled multiple demands all their lives and have developed an extraordinary ability to connect the dots in new and exciting ways. They bring curiosity, energy, creativity and new perspective to nagging age-old problems.
Western women have the cumulated benefit of public sanitation, higher standards of nutrition and medicine, and, in general, higher levels of education than a good portion of the earth’s population. Their brains are healthier and they will live a longer productive life than our forebears.
The Dalai Lama said, “Western women will save the world.” No one is more perfectly positioned to create needed change than late-blooming Western women.
I believe we’re the only ones who are outside the system enough to see the misguided thinking. We are uncomfortable mirrors, shrill reminders and clear-eyed assessors of what we have left. We have unskewed our perspective and offer exciting creative remedies.
Your calling is calling you
If you are beating yourself up because you’re in your midlife feeling hopeless, that you don’t know what your true mission or calling is – please don’t despair. It’s forming in your consciousness even as you read this post.
Your calling, your purpose, your reason for living… it’s calling you as loudly as you call for it. You’re not going to hear it with your ears, though, it’s your heart that must be paying attention. Follow the love.
If you’re struggling to find purpose to this crazy path you’ve followed to get where are now, please know the path you’re on is exactly the one that will lead you to your best work.
If you are a late bloomer, you’re exactly where you need to be. Be your late bloomer self.
Your work right now is to water your soil, use the er, excrement thrown at you everyday as fertilizer for your growth. Soak up the sunshine exactly where you are standing and feel gratitude for the sheer bliss of a simple moment in the sun.
This is the food that feeds your soul for the next leg of your journey. You will have mighty work to do that no one but you will be equipped for. It’s your calling.