The 10 most common excuses for ignoring our Dreams
We all have Dreams. We may love our dreams, we may ignore our dreams, but we all have dreams.
Merriam Webster defines “dream” as “a series of thoughts, images, or emotions occurring during sleep.” It goes on to say a Dream is “an experience of waking life having the characteristics of a dream, a creation of the imagination.” (emphasis mine)
Our Dream, our imagined future, is sparked in us by a divine guiding spirit (whatever that means to you) to push us beyond our preconceived limitations.
Dreams help us grow.
Dreams contain our truth
When I was a budding teenager, my Dream was to be a disk jockey on the radio. How super cool would that be? I would get to meet the musicians in the hottest bands! I would play the coolest music! I would get to be on stage and be famous!
I created an entire universe in my imagination; one where I was cool and influential. A universe where I mattered. Imagining my Dream made me feel proud, a little humble, and excited. At 13, it never occurred to me that it was impossible.
When I revisit that Dream, a lot of what I desired came true. I still love music and I have met some famous musicians (one day I’ll tell the story about having dinner with Johnny Cash and June Carter), and I have been on some pretty big stages.
My Dream, that creation of my imagination, was magnified by the feelings that were attached to it. I am proud of my experiences, I am humbled by them and I am excited about what I can create next.
But I never became a disk jockey.
Dreams don’t come true, feelings do
Dreams are more about the feelings they create than the thing they create. The Dream is just the physical manifestation of the feelings we imagine for ourselves.
So, what do “grownups” do? Rather than becoming immersed in the feelings of our Dream coming true, we imagine all the horrible things that could get in the way. We visualize disaster, falling flat and our embarrassment when we do.
We ignore our Dreams at our own peril.
Those thoughts make us feel powerless and stifled. We feel inadequate. Our Dreams die because we buy in to these ten common excuses:
- There’s not enough time
- Don’t have and/or can’t get the money
- Someone or something else is stopping me
- It’s too exhausting, I’m too tired
- I’m so unmotivated, I feel stuck
- I don’t know where to start
- I don’t even know what I want
- I have baggage
- I’m too easily distracted
- What goals? They’re pointless because they never come true.
Are any of those familiar?
We think excuses are explanations, but they are Dreamkillers. They force us to ignore our Dreams by focusing our attention on feelings of scarcity.
Dreamkillers bully us into believing excuses are reality, so we give up. There is not one single excuse that is actually true. Even circumstances can be changed. But because we believe the Dreamkillers, we allow the feelings of despair to overpower the feelings of the joy our Dreams can bring.
We move our desires and imagined good feelings aside and settle for what’s immediately available.
Here’s the deal
To overcome any excuse, return to your Dream. Experience how it feels to be the person that Did That Thing! Let your imagination create happiness and joy and triumph and feel those feelings.
Immerse yourself in those feelings. Dance them, draw them, sing them, write about them!
Feelings are a Dream magnet! Dreams come true when our desires override our excuses.
Then, get into action by taking baby steps toward that Dream. Each step brings clarity and makes us feel better.
Let’s stop letting excuses and imagined fears determine how we feel. Let’s allow our exuberant Dream to come true!