Be the verb

This past week, my church had a Grand Opening.  We moved from our tiny, cramped out-of-the-way location to a larger space on a busy street.  Talk about exciting!

A committee was created ahead of time to handle advertising, decorating, food, music, and all the important details of things that need to be done to throw a party.  And you know me, I was in the thick of it. 

Love in action joined our hands together and made a beautiful evening happen.  When recapping our event the next Sunday, someone commented, “Love is a verb.” 

It made me think of a similar truism:

Actions speak louder than words

Beyond volunteering to help a cause, becoming a verb and getting into action deeply matters for your creativity.

I’m thinking now of a client who wants to write.  She has a busy work schedule and teenaged kids at home.  As you can imagine, her life is full. 

When it comes to writing, she’s a noun but not a verb.  She calls herself a writer, but never writes.  She has plans to write, but those plans get set aside for other things, things that are important too.

I get it, life happens.  We live our life in accordance with demands as much as with desires.  Sometimes the demands override what our heart is calling us to do.  That can work in the short run but it is not sustainable for your lifetime. 

Your art will not happen just because you desire it.    

Find the thin edges

There are thin edges of time that can be captured to serve that purpose.  Getting up ½ hour earlier to devote time to your art can make a huge difference over time.  So does utilizing your commute time (ex: Toni Morrison wrote on the subway going to and from work) or setting aside time during your lunch hour. 

While I was working full time, I declared Wednesday evening and Saturday morning off limits to any other duty.  Those were times I was in front of the computer working on my business and blogging.  I coached clients during my lunch hour or during those times.  That boundary kept my business alive over the many years of holding a day job.

Find a way that works for you.  You need something to live on, but you also need something to live for.

What I know for sure is that when you give yourself permission to take your art seriously, when you recognize that your art is important and when you reframe those slivers of time as belonging to you, your perspective shifts.

You stop being the noun and become the verb.

8 Replies to "Be the verb"

  • LaTrecia G Raffety
    November 26, 2019 (5:03 pm)

    Well said, Debra, and a good reminder to follow our bliss. I teach art 5 days a week for adults with disabilities, and it is truly a blessing from God! I put in almost 10 hours 5 days a week, not because I have to but because I love to. I get to work early because it’s the only quiet time of the day. It nourishes me and helps me get a little bit of clarity before my day starts non stop.

    • Debra
      November 27, 2019 (5:00 am)

      You are doing such important work. I love that you have found a way to still your spirit on a daily basis. That makes your impact so much greater! Those students are so fortunate ❤️

  • Beatrice (Bea) Smith
    November 26, 2019 (7:11 pm)

    Congratulations on church’s new journey in your new building. That is exciting!

    Thank you for your words. “Find a way that works for you.” That really resonated with me today. You were speaking to me today. I hear you. This reminded me of something a professor told me years ago. I was a single parent of three children (ages 11,9 and 3) enrolled in the “non traditional student” program at a midwestern private college. One particular day, I was having a rough morning trying to balance between being a parent and a student. That professor was also my advisor. The words that he said that day, stuck with me. They were as follows: “When you come through the gates of the college campus, take off your mommy hat and be the student. When you leave the campus, pick up your mommy hat and put it back on.”

    Going forward, I’m giving myself permission to “take off my Nana hat” at scheduled appointed times. (Verb in progress) Thank you again.

    Nana Bea
    Happy Thanksgiving 🦃

    • Debra
      November 27, 2019 (4:58 am)

      I love this! That was very much a “be here now” message. We can only do what we can do, and when we do, it’s with intention, right? Here’s to wearing the right hat for the right occasions. I lift my hat to you!

  • Paula Flagel
    November 26, 2019 (7:26 pm)

    Thank you, Debra. Great message. You sound happy. Wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving!

    • Debra
      November 27, 2019 (4:52 am)

      Great to hear from you! It’s wonderful here! So glad I made the leap.

  • Liza
    November 27, 2019 (3:11 am)

    Thanks for this Debra! Sending you love and gratitude.

    • Debra
      November 27, 2019 (4:49 am)

      Love back to you Liza! Glad you liked it ❤️

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