How to Transform Your Life
When I was locked into the day job, I had no time to explore things I was curious about, no time to hang out at the library and no time to design and make the crochet projects rolling around in my head. I was up early every morning sitting at the desk, selling my time and life energy to something outside myself.
Plus, my coaching practice dominated my free hours. I had a full-time job plus a part-time job. And no life in between.
I wanted things to be different.
As you know, I made the changes I wanted, but I first, had to learn two things:
First: I had to believe that my situation was CHANGEABLE.
Being a single female, living alone, I knew that the only food on the table would be a result of my effort. No effort = no food. No effort = no roof over my head. And even worse, no crochet thread!
I needed a steady paycheck. I needed medical insurance and retirement benefits, I needed security. It was my belief that what made sense was to work for someone else, beholden to their time frame.
It was only after spending years coaching others in their career change efforts that it even dawned on me that I had that same power. Slow learner, right?
I realized my current situation was not the only path before me.
Things could change!
Second: I had to learn that I was CAPABLE of making that change happen.
There was always a vague notion in the back of my head that I could change my life. I’d fantasize about living off the land, or moving in with a sister, or buying an RV and living on the road. But I never had the core belief that I could actually do it.
Then, I scared myself. On a 2-week solo vacation in 2012, I drove across the country to California, visited with some sisters, and attended an Irish Crochet class at the Lacis Museum with Maire Treanor. I explored Berkeley in my spare time, wandering alone around the campus and imagining the days of free love.
Driving home, I made it a point to visit Yosemite and see the sequoias (a bucket list item) and I drove across the salt flats in Utah. That land is so desolate, and I was all alone. A flat tire or an overheated engine could have spelled tragedy.
But I did it. All by myself. And I was safe.
Three years later, I left that day job, and four years after that I completely changed my living arrangements by moving to a different state.
Since then, I’ve driven solo long distances many times. I’ve even gone camping alone – a real test of my courage considering I split my own wood and one false swing could be tragic. (Not to mention lions and tigers and bears OH MY!)
If I can survive by my wits in those circumstances, I’m fully capable of transforming my life.
And you can transform your life too. Believe it’s possible, scare yourself, and realize how capable you already are!
- S Prev