Sometimes we don’t get to choose
Sometimes we don’t get to choose. Tragedy can and does strike.
Sometimes life hands us a gorgeous bouquet that has a razor-sharp knife hidden inside. Warning signs are almost always ignored because we’re looking at the pretty flowers, at the surface only. That’s life’s way of inviting you to walk in a different direction now.
No matter what circumstances befall us, we get to learn our life lesson. Whether we want to or not. And like those staunch soldiers of the realm, we hang on to what was past by tooth and nail, resisting every evidence of change. We gotta hold things together! Muscle up! Everyone is counting on me to keep us safe!
You don’t want anything to change even though everything has changed.
When we reach for the stable signs of the past, they’re simply not there. Only questions remain. If I’m not the person I was before, who am I? If I can’t count on what I believe is true, what can I count on?
Normal doesn’t come back.
We realize we’re holding on to a mirage, an imaginary time, when we cling to the past. By diverting attention away from what once was, we leave an opening for something larger. Something more authentic.
It’s like you’re molting; you’ve discarded the shell that protected you in your previous life, and now you’re forming the new larger version of yourself. But this time you get to choose more intentionally.
Be aware that before the new shell hardens, it’s likely you’ll feel vulnerable and really uncomfortable. Know that this is temporary. Nobody likes it, everyone goes through it. Stick it out – things will be different – you’ll be fine.
You’ll create a new version of you.