When Change Stalls Out

You’ve been working the same job for years.  It’s OK.  It pays the bills.  But inside your heart, you really don’t want to be there.  Getting to work is an effort.

You feel itchy inside wanting change, but then you think about

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This is Your Brain on Contentedness

Fear is contagious , but so is courage
It’s automatic, isn’t it? We screw up something and then mentally flog ourselves for it. We create all kinds of conversations in our heads to prove how horrible we are. We magnify our mistakes. Everyone does this. But what if that automatic response

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The music of relationship

Years ago I sang professionally in an a capella quartet. We were the darlings of the nursing home circuit singing old time hymns and a few more contemporary tunes. From the stage, it was beautiful to watch someone slumped in a wheelchair perk up to sing along. We were triggering old memories. Some were

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Which comes first, Clearing or Structure?

If you’ve moved several times as I have, you may have experienced this frustration: I remember the exact spot I put the item I’m looking for... three houses ago. In my mind, I can see it on the shelf of the closet that now

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Overwhelm and the Buzzing Brain

After a 5-day break traveling to a sibling reunion in Michigan, I’m now looking at my desk. There is so much to do to catch up! Although it was a lovely experience being with my brothers and sisters, I’m now feeling pretty overwhelmed. I can feel my brain buzzing, like a million-jillion mosquitoes swarming between my ears.

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Affirmations? There’s a better way

In the world of self-help, affirmations are the bread and butter of creating change. We want something in our lives, so we write them, we repeat them, and we memorize them. Any program leader or sage advice-giver will tell you the rules of affirmations: - They should be in the present tense: I am… I thrive… I have… - They should describe the circumstances you want to create and remind you that what you desire is fully present in this moment. - You should say or write them daily, or 3 X day, or 20 X a day… with feeling! - Wash. Rinse. Repeat. I get that. But it feels so … fake – right?

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